Comments on: AGENTS OF CHANGE http://www.littlebill.net/wordpress/2008/01/24/agents-of-change/ Little Bill. Just Words. Just Images. Just Me. Thu, 21 Jul 2011 04:17:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Little Bill http://www.littlebill.net/wordpress/2008/01/24/agents-of-change/comment-page-1/#comment-7724 Little Bill Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:57:50 +0000 http://www.littlebill.net/wordpress/2008/01/24/agents-of-change/#comment-7724 @slackmistress, Interestingly, this isn't necessarily a commentary on myself, for once. Which is not to say that it can't be applied to me. However, you're absolutely right. The thing is, I think in the last twelve months I've learned the very lesson that "OMG ONLY ONE" isn't all there is to finding the right person. I think the point I'm trying to make (and probably failing at) making is that it's not just chemistry. That there are other considerations to take into account besides "instant connection" and that I need to be more aware of such things. I think everyone does, actually. @slackmistress,

Interestingly, this isn’t necessarily a commentary on myself, for once. Which is not to say that it can’t be applied to me. However, you’re absolutely right. The thing is, I think in the last twelve months I’ve learned the very lesson that “OMG ONLY ONE” isn’t all there is to finding the right person.

I think the point I’m trying to make (and probably failing at) making is that it’s not just chemistry. That there are other considerations to take into account besides “instant connection” and that I need to be more aware of such things.

I think everyone does, actually.

]]> By: the slackmistress http://www.littlebill.net/wordpress/2008/01/24/agents-of-change/comment-page-1/#comment-7723 the slackmistress Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:52:14 +0000 http://www.littlebill.net/wordpress/2008/01/24/agents-of-change/#comment-7723 I think that if you think in the terms of OMG ONLY ONE that you'll weed out those who may be compatible. And compatible over time. Think about it: the person you wanted when you were 18 is probably somewhat different than the person you want when you're 30. I don't think you have to lower your standards, but I think there's a realism that you have to face. It's not only about chemistry and attraction now, but thinking abou can you sustain it through the future? Is this someone who can roll with the punches or who will freak out the second one-little-thing changes? (And you want the former and not the latter, 'cause life CONSTANTLY is throwing you a curve ball!) I think that if you think in the terms of OMG ONLY ONE that you’ll weed out those who may be compatible. And compatible over time. Think about it: the person you wanted when you were 18 is probably somewhat different than the person you want when you’re 30.

I don’t think you have to lower your standards, but I think there’s a realism that you have to face. It’s not only about chemistry and attraction now, but thinking abou can you sustain it through the future? Is this someone who can roll with the punches or who will freak out the second one-little-thing changes? (And you want the former and not the latter, ’cause life CONSTANTLY is throwing you a curve ball!)

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